For most of my life, the phrase “mind your own business,” has been full of negative energy and sharp barbs. Whether I was the one saying it or the one it was being said to, its full intention was to cause separation. The kind of separation that felt like a big, vault-sized door had been slammed and then you stood there…all alone.
No doubt, that kind of minding your own business was definitely something you had to do from a distance.
But these days, I’ve come to believe that minding your own business is one of the greatest ways to connect and draw genuinely closer to what’s most important in your life.
Because when you mind your own business, when you attend to the important details of your own life, you bring a more full and complete energy to your life and all that’s in it. From that place of fullness and completeness, you then have much more to give.
And what you have to give is clean and free. You give what you give because it is in your heart to do so. You don’t give because you need anything in return.
You don’t need to control or manipulate or be the hero in someone else’s life.
You simply use your life-energy to honor what you have grown in your heart.
When you mind your own business, you put yourself in a position to figure out what is most important to you. From there, you can honor and align with whatever you’ve chosen. And although there are surely people in the world who would argue with you about what you decide is most important to you and attack your choices, you get to decide to honor yourself anyway.
Oh I know that isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. Because when you do, you shine and have a gorgeous rhythm in your life. You are full to a point of overflowing.
That kind of minding your own business is not about separation and distance…it’s about you taking full responsibility for who you are and who you are becoming. And it’s one of the kindest things you can do because what you are growing in your heart is going to come out.
KINDNESS TIP OF THE WEEK
Make sure, when you are all up in the details of how things should be done, that it’s actually your own life you are thinking about. True kindness supports, comforts and genuinely cares for others, but it minds its own business. You don’t have access to how things need to be done in anyone’s life but your own.
Be where kindness lives . . .