I am horrible at directions. In fact, I get ticked off when someone tells me that something is north or south or east or west. They might as well tell me that it’s twelve miles under where I’m standing, because I have about the same chance of getting there!
No joke. I am directionally challenged. And that might explain why I spent most of my life looking in all the wrong places for what I wanted.
You see, I used to tell myself that if I could get the people in my life to love me and give me their stamp of approval, then I’d matter and then I’d have everything. And oh my goodness, I believed that without question!
So, I would go to great lengths, search high and low and then take up with some pretty “interesting” characters in order to get what I wanted. I would make what they thought of me way more important than what I thought of myself. After all, it was there love, attention and approval I was after, so I had to do what I had to do to get it!
Have you ever done anything like that?
Whether you have or haven’t, you can trust me on this – It feels just plain awful to hustle around trying to get other people to make you feel how you want to feel.
Yeah, I know. I had to read that last line again too. But it just proves my point…if we go to the wrong places to get what we want, we are going to walk away empty.
Well, it took me a pretty long time to get it, and it was a twisty-turny-tiring journey, but here are the two things I now know:
You cannot get a lasting, deep sense of love and acceptance from anyone else if you do not, first, love and accept yourself. Self love opens the door to fully experience the love of another.
You cannot get a lasting, deep sense of significance until you know what really matters to you and then honor that by how you show up in the world. If you don’t know what you are trying to build with your life, it’s impossible for someone else to convince you that you matter.
You are the “right place” to look for all things related to your life. Find a way to connect with that bountiful resource!
What you do next matters . . .