When You Are Not Sure What To Do

Marion Youngblood | Coach

I used to tell myself, pretty often, that I didn’t know what to do.

If I had even the slightest doubt about which way to go or what choice to make, I would go to the dark side and convince myself that something was wrong with me and that I should always know what to do. From there, because I wasn’t sure of myself, I’d then convince myself that when I finally did do something, I would most likely do the wrong thing.

I don’t know if this has ever happened to you or not, but when it happened to me, I would get myself in such a twist that I should have been a tasty snack in the pantry. I am talking pretzel baby. And not the soft, pliable kind. I am talking about the hard, rigid and impossible to break kind.

You get the picture, right? When I told myself that I didn’t know what to do, I got scared and literally wore myself out and ended up feeling even less sure of what to do than when I started! Yuckity-yuck-yuck.

But alas, I found a way to make deciding what to do so much clearer and I’d like to share my amazingly simple discovery with you. These days, I don’t get scared and then overwhelm myself if I am not quite sure what to do. Instead, when I notice I have choices and decisions to make, I use the method below. I am sure it will work for you too.

When deciding what to do…

  • First, go somewhere that allows you to hear yourself breathing (Seriously, this is important!)…
  • Next, take several slow, deep breaths until you feel that you have at least slowed yourself down a little more than when you first started noticing your breathing…
  • Then, answer this question: Who do I want to be becoming? (Again, seriously, this is important! What kind of person do you want to be and what kind of life do you want to create for yourself?) Hint: Take your time with this one…it’s the key to pretty much everything.
  • And finally, OWN your answer. Allow yourself to see and feel and imagine that YOU ARE BECOMING that person. (Right now!) You are becoming the person you most want to be. Then do what THAT PERSON – THAT VERSION OF YOU would do. No more waiting.

Now that’s clarity.

I should mention that being clear doesn’t necessarily mean that your decision will be “easy.” But I have sure found that being clear makes things at least a little easier, and I’ll take easier, won’t you?

Here’s to you becoming the person you want to be becoming. Only you can do that.

And in my book, there’s nothing more important than that.

What you do next matters . . .

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